THE ART OF COMPROMISE

In many cases all you will be able to get by being persistent is a compromise. Compromises are good. They get you one step further that you were in the first place. If for some reason, such as self-respect, you can't accept a compromise, then don't. Give whatever you can offer. If you do this you may not get any type of settlement in your favor. Here are steps that will show you how to compromise so that you get the best of the bargain:

• Tell The Person Exactly What You Want
• Tell the person exactly what you want in terms he will understand: "I want more..."
• Persist
• You must get past the other's person's excuses and alibis. You must be persistent until you fell you have hit the other person's bottom line. You may find that the other person is trying to manipulate you. Be persistent until that person has stopped all his manipulation.
• If You Are Unsure and if you don't know what they want, then don't make a decision. You must think the situation over before you make a compromise. If you need more time, tell the other person that you need more time. Make sure that you can live with the compromise you have made before you make it.
• HOW TO DEAL WITH USELESS CRITICISM
• Some criticism you get is in poor taste. We must know how to deal with criticism such as: "You look terrible today" or, "You left this in my way, you idiot." Make sure this kind of criticism useless, follow these steps. Agree With The Facts.
• Agree with the facts the other person presents. For example, in response to "You look terrible today," say, "I haven't been feeling too well lately"; in response to "You left this in my way you idiot," say, "Yes, I did leave it in your way." Answer only what was actually said, not what was implied. How To Answer Stay calm and collected during the whole conservation. Don't lose your temper. The only way a person will make you feel degraded is if you degrade yourself. You don't want to waste your time which this type of person, so don't defend yourself or attack him.
• If You Made A Mistake
• If you made a mistake, accept that fact. Don't accept the quilt for the mistake. If you were in error, then apologize. If you apologize, don't make a big thing out of it. Don't tell them how dreadfully sorry you are, etc. Just give them a plain "I'm sorry."
  
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• HOW TO DEAL WITH IMPORTANT CRITICISM
• When you get important criticism, you want to know how to get the best out of it. Useful criticism is one of the best ways to make yourself into a better person. Follow these steps to get the most out of useful criticism.
• Ask For Feedback
• Find out exactly what others object to about you. If someone tells you "You are bad," that's not good enough. Find out exactly why that person thinks that way. Be very persisent--find out why the other person feels the way he does. Vague criticism is worthless to you.
• Guess At Reason
• If a person refuses to give you reasons for criticizing you, keep guessing at your faults until you get the right one. This may be the only way to find out what displeases the other person.
• Don't Be Defensive
• If you act defensively, you may not be able to benefit from useful criticism. Don't be sarcastic or intimidate the other person. You want to learn how to become a better person from the criticism. Ask the person how you can change your objectionable behavior; be open to reasonable suggestions.