Praise People: Everybody enjoys being praised. People look for approval of
themselves in others. But you should praise people
only when they
deserve it. If you praise people when they don't deserve it, or
if you praise too much, you lose
your credibility. Don't
exaggerate your praise. Make the praise as warm and sincere as
you can.
Don't Put People Down: Putting down a person can be very damaging to you and the other
person's relationship wit you. People don't
want to feel degraded
by being called stupid, crazy, weird, etc. Don't put down anyone
even if they are not
present. If you do, the word will get back
to them and you will look bad. Always talk positively about
people.
Even if you don't like them, still speak highly of
them--you will be amazed at what this does. If you must say
something bad, don't say anything at all.
Don't Be Concerned With Your Interests Only: There is nothing wrong with caring and looking out for yourself.
Just don't make it noticeable to other people.
You will be
resented by other people if you seem selfish. Make sure others
know you look out for them as
well yourself.
Share The Credit: When others have helped you accomplish something, share the
credit with them. Even if their contribution was
not as great as
yours, still share the credit with them. You will be surprised.
Don't Ask Others To Do For You What You Won't Do For Them: If you are unwilling to go out of your way for people, don't
expect them to go out of their way for you. Set the
first
example--if you help them, they will help you.
Always Show Appreciation: Everyone wants approval and recognition for what they have done.
If someone helps you in any way, tell him/her
how much you appreciate
his/her actions. If you don't, he/she may not help you again. This is
what you should
tell people
when you show your appreciation: "I
really appreciate the way you..."; "Thank you very much for...";"You are
very good at...": "I really want to tell you how much I
appreciated..."; "You were very nice to..."
Don't show
too much
approval and recognition or it will lose its credibility.
Don't "Show Up" Others: When you "show up" others you do it at their expense. "Showing
up" people in front of others takes away
their self-respect. If
you are better than others, they will know it--you don't have to
degrade them.
Treat Small Things With Importance: Some things that seem small to you mean a great deal to others.
Don't ignore small problems; help people
solve them. Treating
small problems with importance shows other people you care.
Care About People: Everybody is concerned about themselves and it is important for
them to have someone to care for them.
They are touched when you
care about them. Helping people cope with life makes people feel
that you
care about them.
Don't Criticize A Person In Front Of Others: If you criticise someone in front of others, he will always
resent you. It is one of the most degrading things
you can do. If
you criticize someone, criticize him/her constructively and
privately.
Give People Your Undivided Attention: All people want to fell important. To make a person feel
important you must give him/her your undivided attention
when
communicating with him/her. Get rid of all interruptions. Make sure
you have good eye contact and that you
are not playing with
objects.
Be Courteous, Tactful, Polite and Diplomatic: Everyone appreciates people who are courteous,tactful, polite and
diplomatic. The best way to learn these
qualities is from others.
Study someone you would like to be like and learn how he conducts
him/herself.
Be Confident: If you don't have confidence in yourself, others will not have
confidence in you, either. People admire and
respect confident
people. If you show others doubt, they will treat you with doubt.
Be sure of yourself and play
down your insecurities.
